Thursday, November 09, 2006
My husband wrote on a blog :
Absence makes the heart grow fonder"Yes and no... absence can be of merely the presence ... not of the communication. What is it that any relationship is all about? Talking ... communicating ... the physical aspect is only a part of it ... and I believe it fades away in the end after a decade or two ... which leaves you just the communication and the companionship part.
My wife and I actually met on internet and maintained a long-distance relationship for two years while I was in Japan. We chatted every day. For hours. It worked for us. I finally went to India for a year, when we were able to see each other more. Ended up marrying and then had to stay seperate again for almost half a year till I managed to get her here as well. And we have been on a continuing honeymoon ever since.What if the communication was not that regular either? Can a relationship survive on the basis of mere memories? I doubt it. Memories and feelings, unless reinforced, eventually fade in intensity, as is their nature. So all in all ... it depends on what your concept of a long-distance relationship is. So yes... communication is a key.The concept of "
The One"... is just a concept. He/She doesn't exists beyond the scope of your mind... else your imagination would have to be fairly limited and lacking in ambition/desire ... what we really seek is completion. To have someone to care for, to protect, to love. And someone who returns all that.
My wife had a concept of "the one". He is currently working somewhere in USA, is around 5 years younger than me, earns about a gazillion dollars per month, isn't too handsome nor ugly, though looks much better than me. He goes to the gym every day, has muscles that would make the existing Mr. Universe surrender his title out of pure embarrassment. He owns his own company, and has a huge swimming pool in front of his house. He is a fantastic cook and has won many awards for it. He is well groomed and well-mannered. His photo gets published on the cover of The Times every month. His parents are preferrably either dead, or never existed, giving him one-up even over Jesus christ ... he is fantastic in every aspect ... sports, romance, personality.
Unfortunately my wife never found the unlucky chap, and she had to settle for just me. Someone who doesn't knows how to cook. And doesn't keeps the house clean... And snores while he sleeps.Is she unhappy? Well ... we have fights ... we argue ... and at the end of the day, she tells me she is lucky to have me in her life. And I feel the same.
We wouldn't have it any other way."
:)
Absence makes the heart grow fonder"Yes and no... absence can be of merely the presence ... not of the communication. What is it that any relationship is all about? Talking ... communicating ... the physical aspect is only a part of it ... and I believe it fades away in the end after a decade or two ... which leaves you just the communication and the companionship part.
My wife and I actually met on internet and maintained a long-distance relationship for two years while I was in Japan. We chatted every day. For hours. It worked for us. I finally went to India for a year, when we were able to see each other more. Ended up marrying and then had to stay seperate again for almost half a year till I managed to get her here as well. And we have been on a continuing honeymoon ever since.What if the communication was not that regular either? Can a relationship survive on the basis of mere memories? I doubt it. Memories and feelings, unless reinforced, eventually fade in intensity, as is their nature. So all in all ... it depends on what your concept of a long-distance relationship is. So yes... communication is a key.The concept of "
The One"... is just a concept. He/She doesn't exists beyond the scope of your mind... else your imagination would have to be fairly limited and lacking in ambition/desire ... what we really seek is completion. To have someone to care for, to protect, to love. And someone who returns all that.
My wife had a concept of "the one". He is currently working somewhere in USA, is around 5 years younger than me, earns about a gazillion dollars per month, isn't too handsome nor ugly, though looks much better than me. He goes to the gym every day, has muscles that would make the existing Mr. Universe surrender his title out of pure embarrassment. He owns his own company, and has a huge swimming pool in front of his house. He is a fantastic cook and has won many awards for it. He is well groomed and well-mannered. His photo gets published on the cover of The Times every month. His parents are preferrably either dead, or never existed, giving him one-up even over Jesus christ ... he is fantastic in every aspect ... sports, romance, personality.
Unfortunately my wife never found the unlucky chap, and she had to settle for just me. Someone who doesn't knows how to cook. And doesn't keeps the house clean... And snores while he sleeps.Is she unhappy? Well ... we have fights ... we argue ... and at the end of the day, she tells me she is lucky to have me in her life. And I feel the same.
We wouldn't have it any other way."
:)
# posted by sunena @ 6:11 PM 
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hey
this is a joint blog?
both u guys make for a cute couple from what little I have seen... stay happy forever!
Yeah the aspect of any relationship is definitely communication and companonship. These days though with carreers getting more and more sufocating on time... sms, email, phone, chat are the only modes remaining.
lucky bum that she did not find the ONE!
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this is a joint blog?
both u guys make for a cute couple from what little I have seen... stay happy forever!
Yeah the aspect of any relationship is definitely communication and companonship. These days though with carreers getting more and more sufocating on time... sms, email, phone, chat are the only modes remaining.
lucky bum that she did not find the ONE!
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